Not sure what you value most in this life? Not sure where your passions lie? Ask yourself what advice you would give your younger self, and you will discover some values and passions that you have and may not even know about.
Some of the answers you have may offer some insight into why you are NOT happy and what you need to do to change that.
For instance, I would tell myself to not take things so seriously. Enjoy the ups and the downs. Appreciate every moment that comes into your life. And, stop worrying about what is out of your control.
I’ve been adopting those habits into my life for a while now, and even though it can sometimes be hard not to get caught up in the ups and downs of life, my awareness knows that it’s what I need to do to be happy.
Take your own advice! Remember, it’s never too late to get rid of your limiting beliefs and start creating the life you want.
I asked some friends to share what they would tell their younger selves. I think the answers will resonate with a lot of people.
Be brave, be fearless, don’t see failure as a negative experience and never be afraid to ask questions.
Share your learning freely with others. – iNDaba.London
I think too many of us are taught that failure is a bad thing. But failure is actually a good thing that can help us get the life we want. The more you know about what you don’t want, and what doesn’t work, the more you can go after what you do want, and do what does work!
I would tell myself to get moving and visit the world before so many other commitments tie you down. I would say, take that hiking trip in the Andes. Go see the sites you read about in the Bible. Backpack across Europe. Discover the world now, while you have nothing better to do and you can travel on a shoestring. – David
There are some people who are content where they are, but there are so many people who want to travel and experience what the world has to offer. For me, I realized that I wanted the freedom to do what I wanted at a young age, and I made a lot of choices that have allowed me that freedom.
Should I Change The Past?
Intriguing question, Kari
I have thought about this – if I get access to a time machine, I should go back and fix/correct some of my previous mistakes…but honestly, I don’t think I should do it.
Those mistakes are part of who I am, and what I will be in the future. For instance: My number one situation is when I picked the wrong major (well, for the first 2 years of my college, I was unfocused – I did well in classes, but many of those classes were useless.)
So, I still have a year and a half to graduate, while most of my high school friends have finished their bachelor’s degree. It’s a pretty big mistake, but I am not sure it’s ideal to change it (I would be undoing a lot of things I did in my previous college – those experiences, the habits that I started).
I honestly would be a different person – which I am not sure is the best way to go (I like the current version of me ). – Jeevan Jacob John
This is a good example of someone who is young and appreciating the journey so far. I have no doubt that he will make a lot of choices that will benefit his life, and as long as he stays aware of what he wants, how life is helping him get that, and what choices he should make, I’m sure his future self would say the same thing!
I would have told myself not to worry about getting things perfect and to just aim for good enough. I’d have taught myself the Pareto principle. – Elaine
The Pareto principle states that 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. For me, this has had me searching for those areas of action that produce the most results. By focusing on those areas of action, life gets a lot easier and a lot less stressful!
I had terrible acne all through my teens. It cleared up overnight before starting university, but affected my confidence in all kinds of ways… kind of PTSD. Now I can see I have a few scars, but they don’t matter a bit to anyone with any nous (mind) at all.
So…I would say to my 19 year old self, “Hey Phil, you’re a good-looking guy now, go out there and get laid!” – Phil
I LOVE this answer. I write on a blog for men who want to attract and get women, and I can tell you that this piece of advice is something that many young men need to hear – over and over again. (In fact, we all do!) We are all valuable and have a lot to offer the world during all periods of our life – despite what happens in our lives.
Choosing a college
I would go back to myself at 17 and do more research on colleges. At the time, I just picked one that was affordable and offered the classes I wanted, but now I wish I’d looked more into the culture of the college itself. – Laura
To me, this is a tale that should remind you to follow your passions and be true to who you are – no matter what your age. When you do that, life doesn’t have as many regrets.