Have you ever thought about something and thought, “What a waste of time that was!” I know I have, but lately I’ve been thinking about it and wondering what is really a waste of time?
Many people will give the same list when you ask them what a waste of time is.
- Arguing for the sake of arguing
- Reality TV
- Staring at the wall
- Sleeping all day
- Spying on your neighbors
But, is anything really a waste of time if you learn something from it?
Moreover, if you felt like you wasted time doing something, wouldn’t that be a lesson not to do it anymore which makes it actually time spent learning something for your future benefit?
There are a few things I want to address as a complete waste of time. On some of my blogs, I hear a lot of the same thing over and over again about what a waste of time something was – like a past relationship, and I feel pretty strongly about that subject.
Past Relationships – A Waste Of Time?
I strongly believe that all past relationships were NOT a waste of time. Every relationship that comes into your life, comes into it for a reason. Even someone you meet at the grocery store for 1 minute can have a huge impact on your life.
Every relationship I have ever had served a purpose in my life. I cannot think of one person that was a waste of time.
I was just watching Alan Cohen speak in The Academy For Optimal Living, and he was talking about how every relationship can fit into one of three categories.
1. A Reason: This is a short relationship, even a 1-minute relationship, that helps you get through something, understand something, or move on from something. For instance, the cashier who smiles at you can completely change the course of your day.
2. A Season: The best example for me would be a friend I had throughout my late teens and early twenties. She was there to party with, support me through tough times, and ultimately teach me a lot about what a real friend is not. She was a seasonal relationship for me.
3. A Lifetime: These are the people who support you throughout your life and while there may be conflict, they are not forced – they just are there. Life would not be the same without them. My parents are two of them, my best friend is one of them, and my husband is one of them.
All of these relationships teach us something, so they cannot really be a waste of time for us. We learn from each of them, we have some fun and some sad times, and they serve us in one way or another.
I would say the only way a past relationship could really be a waste of time is when you deny that you took something from it in one way or another! But even then, that is you wasting your time with the way you perceive the situation. It doesn’t mean the relationship as actually a waste of your time.
TV – A Waste Of Time?
Some TV programs have a strong purpose in enriching our lives, but others don’t. For example, some shows on OWN can be pretty cool and inspiring, whereas some shows on that network can be boring and add no value to your life.
I am personally a fan of watching TV to alter my mood, give my mind a break, or learn something I want to learn. But, I think TV becomes a waste of time when it becomes your whole life.
For example, I have a family member who lives in front of the TV. When we get together, he talks about the shows he likes, what is happening in their lives, and what he likes best about them.
The problem is that he usually has nothing else to talk about but TV.
He never comes to visit me and engage in my life, but he is more than happy to partake in the lives of the people in NCIS. It is a sad way to live.
To me, that is a waste of time. He is not learning anything from these shows, and he is not living his life while he watches hours upon hours of these shows. There is a lot more he could be doing for his own happiness.
Not Appreciating The Moment – A Waste Of Time?
Finally, I think not appreciating the moment is absolutely a waste of time.
When you are focused on what you should have done or what you should do or how it is supposed to be, you are wasting your time.
Taking action on what you want is the opposite of that. For instance, if you are beating yourself up about not working out again, then that is a waste of time. You can’t change what you didn’t do, no matter how much you beat yourself up about it. But you can exercise right now.
Also, waiting for something to happen in your life is a waste of time. Many people wait until they find the perfect person to do the things they want to do, but what guarantee is there that you will find that person?
The point is that getting up and taking action on the life you want by focusing on the moment makes wasting time a thing of the past.
If you are not sure how to do that, I highly recommend reading The Motivation Manifesto.
I Don’t Want To Waste Time
The one thing that scares me more than anything else is the thought that I will die with a wasted life. I don’t want to waste time. I want to make the most out of each moment and ensure it adds to my life in some way – even if it is sitting on a beach and enjoying nature and the calmness within.
How do you feel about wasted time?