The Time is Now!
Are you really experiencing life or are you just going along with the motions?
I may be wrong, but I personally believe that everyone wants two things in life. Love and happiness.
Yes, life brings trials and tribulations (that you learn from), but I think that the ultimate reasons for those trials and tribulations is to figure out experiences you don’t want to have again, so that you can live a life of true happiness
I talked about how to live in the now, but NOW I want to talk about why you will find a ton of happiness by doing so.
You cannot experience happiness in the future. You cannot experience happiness in the past. You can, however, think about the future or the past and experience happiness right now. This moment is the only you moment you have.
I guess another way to put that is if you are always waiting for that moment of happiness to come, then you are letting possible moments of happiness pass you by.
7 Reasons Living In The Now Increases Your Happiness
Following are 7 ways that living in the moment can help you become happier (and experience more love).
1. Worry Decreases Drastically When You Live in The Now
Thinking about the future can cause worry. In fact, it pretty much only causes worry or anticipation, and negative anticipation can cause worry.
It’s amazing because when I first started to try and live in the now, I was always stressing about things that were going to happen in the future. What I didn’t know then was that I was stressing about how I thought things were going to be in the future, not how they actually were going to be. I’m not a fortune teller, and I can’t predict my future.
Worry still shows up, but it’s easier to stop it now, because so much of my life is focused on living in the moment. I simply refocus my attention and off I go!
2. Judgement Subsides
Judging others doesn’t feel good. It makes us feel emotions such as anger and jealousy, and neither of those feelings help with our happiness level! Most of our judging comes from our experiences and beliefs in life, so how does that tie into living in the moment?
Well, when you are focused on the present moment and all the things that are happening, you tend to let the situation unfold as it wants to instead of how you feel it should. You are not anticipating anything, rather you are allowing it to be. This type of thought quickly carries over to how you perceive everything, and you stop judging and start allowing.
You may not agree with something, but instead of judging it you just allow it to be.
3. You Appreciate What You Have
You know that old saying that says the grass is always greener on the other side? In truth, the grass is always greener where you water it. Meaning, if you value your present moment and everything that is happening in it, you will stop wishing, wanting, and needing, and instead just be happy with what you have!
I think this is a big one for many of us. We compare our lives to other people and then we decide if our lives measure up to theirs. Usually, when we decide that we don’t have the ‘right’ kind of things, people, or experiences happening in our lives, we become unhappy and long for a better life.
Our best life is right here and now. The more you show gratitude for what you have by really appreciating it, the more things you have to be grateful for.
4. Less Regrets
When you think about the future you tend to worry, but when you think about the past, you tend to regret. It’s human nature!
I should’ve, could’ve, would’ve – these are all things that you can start to feel bad about if you focus on the past. And they don’t help your current happiness, that’s for sure.
When you live in the now, you realize that the only moment is now. This realization can help you to understand that your past experiences were not meant to linger in your mind until you die. They were meant to learn from so that you don’t have to repeat the same experience over in this moment.
This doesn’t mean you don’t remember experiences. It means that you remember the lessons you took from experiences without feeling regret about those experiences.
5. Less Stress
Duh! When you worry less and regret less, then there is less stress right? Yep, that’s the case.
Also, when you live in the now you find that you will laugh more than usual, because you will really enjoy what is happening around you and see the humor in many things you may otherwise had complained about. It is well documented that laughter makes you feel good. It has the power to turn your frown upside down (I couldn’t think of anything but that cliche, but it’s true!). When you feel good you become less stressed.
6. You Experience More Meaningful Moments
Often it takes someone dying to recognize how important they were. It can also take the loss of something to realize how much we valued it.
However, when we live in the now, we appreciate what is going on around us and try to make the most of every moment that we have.
When I think back to a time in my life when I was always focused on the future or the past, I can see that I didn’t appreciate the animals or people in my life. I was too busy to really listen to what my Grandpa had to tell me. I was too focused on my personal life to really enjoy the way my Nana laughed at ridiculous things. And I was too focused on dumb-ass concerns to focus on my Border Collies desire for a pet. And now it’s too late to do that – with them.
Now though, I listen to people when they talk. I appreciate their words, thoughts, and laughter. I really look at my dogs instead of through them. I try to enjoy the amazing moments of laughter and happiness they all give me.
It’s never to late to start enjoying this moment and adding a ton of meaning into it.
7. You Are More Honest With Yourself
It is hard to be in the present moment and pretend to be someone you are not. You are not worrying about how others see you, instead you are connected to your inner-being and the truth of who you are.
You quickly learn what you truly don’t like – because why would you spend any moment on something you don’t like?
This one is a little harder to explain, but I’m telling you that it’s true. I’ve always been pretty open about who I am, what I don’t like, and what I do like. I’ve always tried to live the truth as I see it. But when I started living in the moment more, I instantly saw that it was foolish to not be honest with myself and admit my likes, dislikes, and all the other stuff that goes with it.
There is nothing that will make you happier than accepting yourself for who you are. It feels free to be the person I was meant to be rather than the person others want me to be.