There are many things that can be taken away from your in your life; your clothes, your house, your car, your friends, your family, and even your job can all disappear in a moment’s notice. However, your attitude is the one thing that you will always have fully in your control.
Why Your Attitude Matters So Much
The way you approach situations in your day has a direct influence over your ability to be happy. Your attitude decides how you are going to behave in any given situation, and since your emotions (happiness etc.) are a direct result of your behavior; your attitude pretty much has control over your day.
For example, when I write an article for someone and have it rejected, my attitude towards that rejection will make or break my day. If I take it as a personal attack, then I may start criticizing my writing skills and stop paying attention my writing. Soon I feel pretty bad about myself and start to wonder what I am even doing writing for other people in the first place. This can set the tone for a VERY unproductive day.
In addition, I find that trying to work when your attitude sucks only results in more things appearing to make your attitude suck. It has not been uncommon for me to receive a few rejections on the same day because I was stuck in a ‘I suck and so do you!’ mode.
Lastly, all of your relationships will suffer if you have a bad attitude. Career relationships, personal relationships, and even relationships with strangers will suffer. You may not think much of it now, but one day when you need a family member or friend or even coworker to be there for you, you may regret have a bad attitude around them and causing them to disconnect with you.
How To Fix Your Attitude
It takes practice and commitment. You have worked hard to get your current attitude, and you need to change your beliefs and outlook before you can get a more positive attitude.
First, you have to recognize that you have a bad attitude in the first place. For some people it has just become a way of life and it may not be obvious that they can choose another way to approach life. If this is you, know that you can approach life from a different angle, and change your thoughts, feelings, and mind-set.
Once you decide that you want to change your attitude you can use a bunch of different techniques:
Positive affirmations – Your negative attitude stems from your negative affirmations; without a doubt, so you need to change those affirmations around and starting talking a little more positively to yourself. For instance, instead of saying, “This sucks!” say “I can find a way to get through this.” Yes, affirmations are really just little sentences that you tell yourself in order to start thinking more positively and incorporating more positive beliefs into your life.
See It From A Different Point Of View – Instead of looking at a situation with a negative viewpoint, trying flipping it around and finding something to be grateful for. For instance, if you get in a car accident, try not to focus on the negative but instead be grateful that you are alive and well.
Remember That This Is Your Chance At Life – Why waste any moment having a bad attitude. When this life is over, you will regret not spending your time enjoying it and laughing at stupid things that you cannot change. Right now is your change to enjoy life fully, and having a good attitude will allow you to view life as a fun journey instead of a challenge.
You CAN Change Your Attitude
Think of this: Viktor Frankl is a man who survived the Holocaust, and he went on to write such books as ‘Man’s Search For Meaning‘. If this man can have a good attitude, then you can certainly have a good attitude. As I said, it is all about choice, and Viktor made the choice to maintain an attitude that served him well.