There are many ways that we can contribute to our happiness on a day by day level – even a moment by moment level. For instance, we can make ourselves happy by doing something good for ourselves, such as taking a bath, eating comfort food, or visiting with someone that makes us laugh. But how do we permanently make ourselves happy? How do we be happy on a day to day basis doing what we normally do in our days?
I was reading a summary of Body Mind Mastery by Dan Millman the other day, and this one part really stuck out for me: The Law Of Accommodation – It may change slowly, but it will change. Your body and mind will accommodate to what you do most.
I have been working on building habits lately, and even though I understood that I was building those habits to benefit my life, I wasn’t focused on the fact that it would change my life, but it will.
Some habits I am building are:
- Reading at least one chapter per day
- Only talking positively about myself
- Drinking 6+ glasses of water per day
- Exercising at least 1/2 hour a day
- Writing in dream journal every day
These are things that I feel I want to do, but they are also things that will contribute to my life positively. Obviously.
When we try to change our habits it is because we want to add positive things to our life. You don’t try to develop crappy habits such as: start smoking, eat only fried food, focus on the negative…
How To Build Habits
My personal advice based on my experience:
1. Obviously, you have to decide what habits you want to develop. You already know some habits that you want: eat better, exercise more, focus more, stop being negative are just a few that we all seem to share. However, you have your own personal habits that you would love to build. Figuring out what you want and writing that down is the first step.
2. Write those habits down in a place you will see them: on your mirror, in your goal setting software, or anywhere else that you regular look, and then practice them every day. Make them part of your to-do list every single day, even days when you don’t necessarily have a to-do list.
3. Remember why you are building your habits. You may decide that one or two days off from building your habit is okay, but the truth is you are trying to change and become someone different, someone better, and building your habits is the only way to do that. Soon those habits will just be an automatic way of life. So, if you really want to change, then be consistent and do it anywase. Even if you just do it a little, it is better than not doing it at all.
Your Life Comes From Your Rituals – Tony Robbins
Just to drive home the importance of habits, I thought I would throw a Tony Robbins video up, which is always so smart and insightful.
Get in the habit of talking to yourself differently and doing things differently and you will have a different life.
What do you want to get into the habit of doing?