I’ve been best friends with Arlene since forever. We went to elementary, junior high, and high school together. Shortly after high school she got married and moved away. It was only three hours away, so we still saw each other often through the year. Then she up and moved across the country! Now we see each other once or twice a year – if that. But, we are still best friends – more like sisters really. We couldn’t get rid of each other if we wanted to. We are almost 40, so I think we have a few insights into what best friends are like. Following are some things that only true best friends will understand.
1. Best Friends Are Not Alike (And That’s OK)
Best friends are not always alike. In fact, as you age, it’s entirely possible that you will take different paths in life, develop different beliefs, and have different ways of seeing the world.
For instance, my best friend has three kids, is Christian, and is a fitness enthusiast who wants to rock as perfect a body as she can. I, on the other hand, don’t want kids, am spiritual but not Christian, and while I want to be healthy, I don’t mind a little padding on my body.
We see many things differently.
We go through our daily routines differently.
And, in the end, it doesn’t make a difference to our friendship.
We accept each other for who we are. In fact, we learn a lot from each other about ourselves and different perceptions because we are different in many ways.
2. Best Friends Are Alike In Ways That Count!
Despite any differences you have, you are still alike in some ways. The similarities help you feel connected to your best friend in a way you don’t feel connected to anyone else.
For instance, we can laugh at the same ridiculous things.
We have a lot of inside jokes.
We get annoyed at a lot of the same things and can complain to each other with a full understanding of how annoyed we are!
We enjoy a lot of the same things and have a good time doing them together.
And, often we can finish each other’s sentences and can easily speak up for each other in situations that are stressful or overwhelming us.
3. Best Friends Understand Each Other
Because you understand pretty much everything about your best friend, you can usually understand where they are coming from. In other words, you understand why they say what they say and why they do what they do – even if you don’t agree with it.
Having this kind of understanding about someone is rare! With it, you can avoid jealousy, anger, and annoyance and just allow yourself to accept someone for who they are.
4. Best Friends Are Always There For You
Even if you haven’t talked to your best friend in months, they will be there for you when you are going through a hard time. In fact, they are the first person you think of calling when a hard time comes around.
They listen, sympathize, stand by you, and support you. They are the one person you can always turn to for help in a hard time – no matter what.
5. You Cry And Laugh A Lot With Your Best Friend
The deeper connection you have with your best friend means that things get much more emotional. You are much more likely to cry your eyes out with them than anyone else. And you are much more likely to laugh your ass off with them than anyone else.
6. You Don’t Need To Be Fake With Your Best Friend
It doesn’t matter what age you are or what state you are in life, your best friend is the one person you don’t need to fake with.
If you are annoyed, you can show it.
If you are tired and don’t want to do anything, you can tell them.
You don’t have to act differently than who you really are just to please them because they already know who you are!
You don’t have to pretend to like something you don’t or be someone you are not or anything else because they already know who you are.
And if you develop new beliefs, habits, or perceptions in life, you can tell them.
In short, whether they understand or not, you know they are going to be there anyways afterward, so there is no reason to lie about who you are.