Not too long ago, I read a book by Caroline Myss called Self-Esteem: Your Fundamental Power. I will never look at self-esteem the same way again. Before I thought it was important, but now I know that it is essential to every aspect of life. So, this article will focus on some self-esteem quotes that will hopefully help you understand what self-esteem is and why it plays such an important role in your life.
- 1 1. It’s Not Your Fault You Don’t Have Self-Esteem Under Control
- 2 2. Start By Getting To Know Yourself
- 3 3. Accept That You Are Different Than Others
- 4 4. Don’t Be Scared To Toot Your Own Horn
- 5 5. Accept That You’re Going To Fall Sometimes
- 6 6. Be Your Biggest Fan So Other People Can See How Great You Are
- 7 7. Surround Yourself With Awesome People
- 8 8. How Can You Spot Low Self-Esteem?
- 9 9. Self-Esteem IS Important
- 10 10. It’s Even Important For Your Financial Future
- 11 11. High Self-Esteem Helps You Make A Better Life
- 12 12. This Is A Big Sign Of High Self-Esteem
1. It’s Not Your Fault You Don’t Have Self-Esteem Under Control
There are no college courses to build up self-esteem…or high school or elementary school. – T. D. Jakes
It would be nice if building up our self-esteem was taught to us throughout life, but it’s not. Rather, being bullied, told how wrong we are, and shamed for different things that make us unique help to tear down our self-esteem. In short, most of us – except the ones surrounded by really amazing people – are taught to have low self-esteem.
I still remember some of those moments where my mom told me I was acting stupid or some kids at school laughed at me for something I was doing. Those are the moments that I think about when I’m about to do something bold or out of my comfort zone. Those are the moments that chip away at my self-esteem if I let them.
The bottom line is that we take blow after blow as we grow up and it can be hard to maintain a high level of self-esteem. But, now that we are older, and can see things a little clearer, we can easily take our stand and make our self-esteem a priority.
2. Start By Getting To Know Yourself
Self-esteem begins and ends with you. The more you know about yourself, the less moved you’ll be by the opinions of others. – Dr. Robin B. Dilley
To build up your self-esteem, start by getting to know yourself. Or, as I did, start by allowing yourself to admit what you like.
When I was in my early twenties, I conformed to what I thought other people wanted me to be. I did what I thought made me look cool, not what I wanted to do. I told myself that I liked to do what I was doing, even though deep inside I knew I didn’t. Once I started to admit what I did and didn’t like, I started to get to know myself better. And once I started to get to know myself better, the less other people’s preferences and opinions affected my self-esteem.
3. Accept That You Are Different Than Others
I cannot be truly myself, cannot build self-esteem, if I cannot accept myself. – Nathaniel Branden
After you start to get to know yourself, you have to accept that you are different than others. And you are!
You have your own preferences, habits, beliefs, and expectations, and that’s perfectly fine. It makes you who you are. It makes you interesting. It makes you a valuable part of this world!
Once you start to see that you are perfect just the way you are, you will start to build your self-esteem up even more.
4. Don’t Be Scared To Toot Your Own Horn
A little self-promotion to help my self-esteem. – Adam Rubin
This is a quote from Adam Rubin on Twitter. And while it doesn’t say what he was doing to promote himself, it still has a good message for self-esteem.
Nobody is going to toot your horn. You gotta do it yourself. I’m not talking about telling other people how great you are all the time. I’m just talking about promoting yourself and your talents when it counts. I’m talking about standing tall with your chest out and admitting how awesome you are.
The great thing is, when you are able to talk about your strengths and talents, you will remind yourself of how strong and talented you are, and your self-esteem will improve because of it.
5. Accept That You’re Going To Fall Sometimes
Accepting ourselves even if we make a mistake is an act of love and respect that builds self-esteem. – Alana Stewart
So many people beat themselves up when they make a mistake or experience a failure, but doing that attacks your self-esteem in a negative way. It sends you the message that you are not worthy enough or capable enough, and that’s simply not true!
- We all fail!
- We all lose!
- We all make mistakes!
Failure, losses, and mistakes don’t make us less of a person. They make us stronger – if we choose to learn from them. Therefore, accept yourself when you make a mistake. Accept it as being a part of growing and learning and become even more awesome. If you do that, I guarantee your mistakes will be much less damaging to your self-esteem and much more uplifting to it!
6. Be Your Biggest Fan So Other People Can See How Great You Are
If you don’t like yourself, nobody else is going to like you. You project on others how you feel about yourself. – Joel Osteen
When I saw this self-esteem quote, someone had commented on it saying that it was kind of harsh to blame people with low self-esteem for other people not liking them. But, I don’t see it that way. As someone who knows how our thoughts about ourselves affect everything else in life, this is one of those self-esteem quotes that I totally agree with.
When you are down on yourself, you highlight yourself in a negative light. You talk down about yourself. You are mean to yourself. You paint yourself in a negative light, so why would people like you?
When you are your biggest fan, other people will start to become your fan too. They will see how amazing you think you are and think ‘There must be something really special about that person!’
Even people you already know will change their mind about you. It’s funny how people can be swayed to see you in a completely different light when you see yourself in a completely different light.
7. Surround Yourself With Awesome People
Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by idiots. – Sigmund Freud
The ultimate in self-esteem quotes, this one really hits home for me. When I was younger, I surrounded myself with people who I would now call idiots. They were mean, focused on negative things, had no awareness past their own ego, and had low self-esteem. Spending most of my time with them, how could I have anything but low self-esteem?
Once you separate yourself from idiots, you stop being influenced by their negativity and start being more positive. I swear it! You will be amazed at how uplifting it is to separate yourself from them. You won’t even have to do anything to feel better about yourself because you will naturally just feel better.
8. How Can You Spot Low Self-Esteem?
Girls who throw shade don’t think they’re better. It’s an act. Speaks to a self-esteem problem. – Kiersten Warren
Just in case you don’t know, throwing shade means to publicly criticize others. People who throw shade are loud and obvious. You can’t miss them. They stand out in the crowd and, if you are their target, they can make you feel really bad about yourself. But, they also tell a story – a story of low self-esteem.
When you develop high self-esteem, you don’t feel the need to drag down others. High self-esteem helps you stay in a positive energy where love, compassion, and tolerance live. You won’t agree with everything other people do or think, but you won’t feel the need to tell them how horrible they are in front of a bunch of other people. You will have much better tactics to deal with negative people.
If you are someone who is constantly leaving negative comments or calling other people out in public, then you need to take a look in the mirror. How you feel about yourself will affect how you treat other people.
9. Self-Esteem IS Important
Self-esteem isn’t everything; it’s just that there’s nothing without it. – Gloria Steinem
As I said, the book by Caroline Myss showed me just how important self-esteem is. It affects every area of your life.
- It dictates how your relationships will go
- It dictates what you will manifest in your life
- It dictates how much success you will have in your life
- It dictates how healthy you will be
The list goes on and on.
If you don’t think it’s important to develop your self-esteem, think again. Your whole life will change as you do, and it will change for the better.
10. It’s Even Important For Your Financial Future
Healthy self-esteem conquers money issues. – Caroline Myss
I’m taking a course right now by Harv Eker called The Spiritual Laws Of Money. I’m halfway through, and one thing I know for sure is that the course is teaching me how to build my self-esteem around money and my choices around my money because, without it, I would never be able to have the financial future I want.
Making money and creating wealth is all about having the confidence to do what you need to do. If you want a future full of wealth, then you need to develop your self-esteem.
11. High Self-Esteem Helps You Make A Better Life
All bad decisions are caused by rushing or by low self-esteem. – Caroline Myss
In short, high self-esteem will help you make the best decisions possible in every area of your life that result in what you really want. It will help you make the right decisions and – even before that – see the options that you have in front of you.
I know some older people who talk about life as if they are stuck and unable to make choices. They feel like there is only one path for them, and they are incapable of making different decisions that would lead them to a better life. Needless to say, they don’t think very much about themselves and their power to create a life that they want.
12. This Is A Big Sign Of High Self-Esteem
Be happy for others in their fortunes and accomplishments, and always be happy for your own as well. – Colette Butler
When you have confidence in yourself, you will not put down other people for the great things they have done; instead, you will celebrate them.
Collette Butler and her husband have achieved some great things. They are a couple with five kids and they vlog about their life on YouTube. If you ever read the comments on their videos, you will see a mixture of positive comments that celebrate their success and negative comments that try to minimize their success. It’s very obvious which commenters have high self-esteem and which have low self-esteem.
When you feel good about yourself, you know that other people’s accomplishments don’t affect you in a negative way, so you don’t minimize them. You can see how their high self-esteem and hard work paid off, because you are in that same energy and are doing the same thing in your life, and you acknowledge their successes with positive feedback.