Is space in a relationship good or bad? Should you really give your partner some space to be by themselves, follow their own pursuits, and live their own lives?
When you read that last question, you are most likely saying yes. After all, we are all here as individuals to live out our own purposes, and having the space to do that is essential.
When I was younger, I was guilty of smothering my boyfriends.
I would jump into a relationship and leave me behind in the process. I would engage in their interests and activities, and forget to pursue my own path in life.
I was always unhappy during these relationships. Now I know that when you are not being true to yourself and following your life purpose, you can’t feel anything but unhappy!
After listening to many different people, I think this is a common thing for younger people to do. However, there are many older people who still become clingy when they get into a new relationship and leave their unique life in the dust.
There needs to be space in the relationship. When there is no space in the relationship, each person can start to feel smothered and lose their identity.
But, if there is too much space in a relationship, then the relationship can start to grow apart and lack intimacy.
When you put some space in your relationship, it does not mean that you do not include your partner in your interests, activities, and overall life. It just means you give your partner some space to maintain their relationship with themselves and they give you some space to do the same.