Yesterday my dad told me I should get a job. In fact, he told me to be a secretary because I have good computer skills. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being a secretary, but it is not what I want to do! I have my own dreams and goals in life.
The Disapproving Vibe
My parents have never been proud of anything I’ve done as far as work. In my early years, while I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do, I worked at hospitals as a housekeeper and kennels as a doggy daycare worker. I also went to college, and I dropped out of college (twice). I graduated once (but didn’t go into that career).
Then one day I got online (much to my parents horror). I started writing and never looked back. Since then I’ve spent years ghostwriting and blogging.
What would make them proud? If I worked at a government job or a career that could offer me long-term disability (if I needed it) and a nice retirement package.
When my dad told me that I needed to get a real job, he basically told me that he doesn’t feel what I’m doing is worthwhile and that I’m knowingly wasting my time every day. Worse, he feels that I’m putting pressure on my husband to bring home money as I selfishly go about my days doing whatever I want.
He doesn’t think too much of me obviously.
The truth is that I’m working towards something. I have goals and dreams that I am actively pursuing, and I’m getting closer to them every day. It’s not how my parents want me to do it: get education, get a job, stay in job until retirement, retire. But, it’s what I want to do and I enjoy doing it.
My husband fully supports my dreams and is living his own dreams. He is doing what he loves, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. We’ve had some major accomplishments along the way towards are dreams and we are happily moving along each day.
Still, my parents don’t see that. One day maybe they will, but until that day we are going to have to keep doing what we are doing with the judgement and disapproval.
How To Keep Going Despite Someone Trying To Crush Your Dreams
The truth is my parents make me feel bad about myself when they talk to me like that.
If I were to let their words get to me, I would be in a job that I hate right now and I would be miserable.
I would be heading towards something I don’t want to be heading towards, and my dreams would be fading out like a distant memory.
So, how do I keep my head held high as my parents and others try to make me feel bad about what I’m doing?
1. Living Without Regret
I know that I do what I need to do to make things work out, but I also make the most out of every day by doing what I love. There is a really good reason for that!
I don’t want to look back and regret my life 10, 20, or 30 years from now. I want to look back and think I did what I loved, I tried to make an impact, I did my best every day, and I was happy doing it.
2. Freedom Of Choice
The great thing about my life is that I have freedom to choose. I’m acutely aware of that. I can choose to live where I want, dress how I want, talk how I want, and work where I want.
Nobody can take that choice away from me – not even with guilt or a waving finger. I will never take advantage of my ability to choose a direction that makes me happiest.
3. Other People Have Been Where I am
I’m not the only one who has been judged for doing something outside of the box. Other people have been judged and disapproved of and still succeeded. In fact, most people who have succeeded have a story of someone who said they couldn’t do it. In fact, here is a list of 50 famous people who could have given up, but didn’t.
4. The Goal Is At The Other End Of Action
Me ——————————– Goal
It is attainable.
All I have to do is take steps towards my goal(s) and I will get there.
That end goal may or may not impress people like my parents, but it is a place that I personally want to be, and I know that with the right action and determination, I will get there.
5. Other People Believe In Me
My husband believes in me, and I believe in him. But we are not alone. There are people who have struggled and reached success, and they believe in us too – even if they don’t know us.
I may never talk them in person, but I can read their books, hear their words, and feel their belief in the ability to succeed and be happy.
I can go to places like The Big Life and listen to big names like Jack Canfield talk about how the life I want is attainable. I can get inspiration from a ton of people who have succeeded and believe in dreams and success, and I can cancel out the negative poo-pooing that I receive from the naysayers.
Don’t Let Others Crush Your Dreams
The bottom line is this: Your dreams are attainable. You just have to keep moving forward, despite what others say. As long as you put one foot in front of the other you will never stop moving towards your goals in life.
Don’t let people crush your dreams. They may not understand what you are doing and they may not approve, but what would make them happiest will not make you happiest. And I don’t know about you, but I want to live my life being truly happy – not pleasing others.